A little chat about compassion

Even though I am not a guy …. even though I read the instructions before starting … I still do not like assembling furniture out of the box!    Really … it is a shame that resin is the only affordable preassembled option!

So why not pick plastic?    Does that mean I am a snob?   Absolutely not!    Personally, I prefer not to peel chairs off after I stand up, eh?    More importantly, it is always more peaceful to have something sturdy enough to stand up to my muttley crew!

Lawn furniture has come a long way since I bought my first picnic table!     When I was rummaging around online, there were some truly lovely things that caught my eye!      Cute little bistro sets!   Pub style dining!    Even classics like wicker and wood are only limited by ones imagination and wallet!

Here in the real world it is important to inhabit the life we actually lead .. not the one we think we should!      When we make decisions based on that …. dog loving gardeners buy easy to clean furniture!

But here is the thing …. we all have twenty twenty hindsight!    In retrospect, I realize that indestructible did not mean that my cement benches and table would be comfortable!    That buying an exercise video is not going to make me a fitness junkie!   And that unless I forget how to cook the odds are that I will never see size sixteen again!

In the bigger scheme of things, it is not a big deal if we do not always spend our money wisely on things!    Lets face it,  the bad choices we make are the mother of more experienced and sensible ones later!

As a collective entity, the animal loving community tends to bristle with angst when people are not sensible about picking a pet!  Free to a good home ads of Kijiji are a good example!    When someone is getting divorced, moving, having a baby, etc …. it really is not helpful when they are bombarded by scolding!

To be perfectly honest, so many times that has had the exact opposite effect!   The ads have disappeared, leaving the pets to whatever Unhappy Option to rehoming is at hand 😦

Now … before the keyboards catch on fire … no I am not making excuses for anyone!   But …  here is the thing!      Picking a pet has little to do with logic!     Sometimes folks simply want to be loved!    Others want to become more fit by committing to daily walking!   Others simply see a puppy as a requisite part of the 2.4 kids house in the suburbs dream!   Gosh those are big shoes for anyone to fill … let  alone an animal who is depending on his or her human!

I am a middle-aged grandmother, not a psychologist … but it seems to me that is the real recipe for failure!     Expecting a pet to change our life is as realistic as bringing an actress’ photo to one’s hairstylist!     Back in her hairdressing days, my daughter used to mutter that the only way that was going to happen was if she stapled it to the optimist’s forehead!

But I am wandering afield here … as I am wont to do in my meandering way!   The point that I am trying to make today is that it would really be more helpful if the animal loving community could be as understanding of humans as they are of the animals!

To be blunt … if we are to inhabit the real world, that should include the understanding that not every surrender is preventable or arbitrary!   Sadder still, it simply is not realistic to tar every person giving up a pet with the same brush, eh?    Saddest of all of course is that scolding usually proves to be simply ‘cutting off one’s nose to spite one’s face’!

What time is it?    It is always time to understand that sometimes the best option for a pet IS to be rehomed!

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.   Tenzin Gyatso, 14th Dalai Lama

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